Thursday, September 1, 2011

How to Save My Relationship With My Girlfriend - When She Decides It's Over

It really sucks to be told by your girlfriend that the relationship is over.

There are few things more devastating to a guy's sense of control, to his ego, and to his entire well-being.

You are probably feeling:

-Like curling up and hiding
-Like playing video games in your room and never coming back out

You might want to:

-Call in sick to work
-Avoid all your friends
-Hide from the world

Do not despair! All of these feelings are perfectly natural responses to a breakup. Unfortunately, none of them will actually help you get her back, though.

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Here's a quick breakdown on why she left:

1. She didn't feel excited by you anymore.
2. She had too much power in the relationship; the balance was off.
3. You didn't know how to appeal to her emotions - which is what makes women tick.

If you tried to reason with her after the breakup, saying things like, "here's all the reasons we should stay together" or you tried to LOGICALLY appeal to her...

You made a mistake. Because women don't respond to logic. They respond to emotion.

If she told you things like "it's just not working out" or "it's not you, it's me," that's Woman Code for "You're boring the hell out of me - I'm gonna go find a more exciting guy."

I know it's kind of harsh, but it's the reality. The guys who typically succeed with women are the "jerks" who yank them around and don't seem to give a flip about them.
(It's their carefree attitude that makes them so appealing.)

So how can you save your relationship with your girlfriend? Here's a step by step plan:

1. Set a time period of No Contact with her. (30 days)
2. During this time, reassess your life goals and your health.
3. Adopt an exercise plan, start eating healthy, and hang out with your friends.
4. If you can, try going out on a few dates with other women to boost your self esteem. (Doesn't have to be anything serious.)
5. After 30 days have passed, send her a note and say: "I'm really doing okay with the breakup. Things are going great for me right now. Hope they are for you, too." Something to that effect, in your own words.

The key of what you need to communicate in this "re-establishing of contact letter" is that you're stable, happy, and independent. No longer is your happiness dependent on your girlfriend; now, you're free and strong in yourself.

She'll find that very attractive - and be 10 times more likely to respond to you.

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1 comment:

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